tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post4937981794394630108..comments2023-05-07T00:48:54.638-07:00Comments on Incongruous Circumspection: Father's Day, UndeservedIncongruous Circumspectionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-41594932325031227572014-07-14T08:14:46.439-07:002014-07-14T08:14:46.439-07:00Thank you so much for your kind words.Thank you so much for your kind words.Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-46808763581977661572014-07-14T05:13:59.906-07:002014-07-14T05:13:59.906-07:00I know this is an old post, but I had to comment. ...I know this is an old post, but I had to comment. I'm almost 32 years old, wife to an awesome man, mother of three delightful boys. My real relationship with God has been teaching me to be a 'real' mom to my kids and to enjoy life - I also grew up in a miserable, stuffy environment that did not value childhood as it should have.<br />I'm crazy about my boys and have learned to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-41211826429643939942012-12-23T08:00:25.958-08:002012-12-23T08:00:25.958-08:00My friend I am pregnant and so worried I will not ...My friend I am pregnant and so worried I will not be able to love this child as it deserves.... You are overwhelmed. <br />If you can not love just yet, focus on treating them in the meantime with consideration and respect. I tell myself I can surely do that. And hope the rest will follow.<br />kisaritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18181012456635737873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-54307485512140291382012-12-09T11:00:50.146-08:002012-12-09T11:00:50.146-08:00I am praying for you and your children. And hopefu...I am praying for you and your children. And hopefully whatever damage you have done to them will be repaired.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-24287541127377489312012-12-09T04:28:20.300-08:002012-12-09T04:28:20.300-08:00Growing up with my father in the home he never kne...Growing up with my father in the home he never knew how to love us. But what matters is that he tried. Now he is going through what you are. Almost word for word. I'm 26. Married. I have a new daughter. Thank God for second chances.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-24788516942387299572012-07-26T18:56:23.143-07:002012-07-26T18:56:23.143-07:00What I see here Joe is a man who knows he is at fa...What I see here Joe is a man who knows he is at fault and is begging for change. Which is good. Because change only happens when it knows it is wanted. When you are ready. I also see that you have a wife you do love. Who loves your children. Watch her. Between the love the two of you share and her loving the ki kids, you will learn how it works. Because she will teach you. Please let us know Sayrendipityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00796660973217278240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-73149550056301620772012-06-16T14:11:37.566-07:002012-06-16T14:11:37.566-07:00Yep. I'm struggling with this as a mom. The ...Yep. I'm struggling with this as a mom. The guilt is immense. I'm hopeful therapy will help.Larissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09586721197750246060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-47682761031434401022012-06-15T12:58:08.566-07:002012-06-15T12:58:08.566-07:00See myself here- wow - love the blog....See myself here- wow - love the blog....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-27127221406269612712011-12-30T18:37:06.856-08:002011-12-30T18:37:06.856-08:00This is one of the most beautifully honest things ...This is one of the most beautifully honest things I have ever read. I wish for the sake of everyone in your family (YOU MOST SURELY INCLUDED) that this was not your experience, but since it is, thanks for showing your humanity.Carmenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07937118630051040096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-52634874263477011992011-12-27T21:00:32.614-08:002011-12-27T21:00:32.614-08:00Thanks JAB.Thanks JAB.Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-58739200462357727992011-12-27T20:52:10.545-08:002011-12-27T20:52:10.545-08:00Great post...get it. I've felt these thoughts,...Great post...get it. I've felt these thoughts, feelings too, particularly with my eldest...and then loads of guilt for feeling it. It's getting better...she is growing and changing and so am I. <br /><br />And to A Novice Homemaker...go pound sand. This is a man who sees himself with honesty and hates what he sees and is making a change. This is life and the process of life. If you haveNo Longer Begginghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01280125006011865326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-48307182359106767912011-08-28T17:27:53.395-07:002011-08-28T17:27:53.395-07:00A Novice Homemaker. Very much appreciated. Looki...A Novice Homemaker. Very much appreciated. Looking back, I think this is exactly the response I am looking for. At least, it is the response I tell myself when I go back and read this. I am still learning. Maybe your prayers have been and are being answered.Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-75772752444218672402011-08-27T17:13:59.991-07:002011-08-27T17:13:59.991-07:00This post disgusts me. I will NOT be giving you a...This post disgusts me. I will NOT be giving you a pat on the back for admitting to being a terrible father as so many here have. I truly hope that wasn't what you were looking for when you wrote this. I am so sick to my stomach. I read this post last night and have been in almost constant prayer for your children since. I truly pray that you can find a way to be a great father to your A Novice Homemakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00842630047678367247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-63204450628740233782011-08-11T22:29:23.284-07:002011-08-11T22:29:23.284-07:00Thanks, Jessica. It is still a process. We just ...Thanks, Jessica. It is still a process. We just got back home from a vacation that included about 2.5 days of driving. With six kids, you can imagine some of the things that can happen. I did good for some of it and had some good victories. At other times, I'm not proud of my attitude.<br /><br />I did learn some things though:<br /><br />Parents cannot keep their kids quiet, they can Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-37612130287158839902011-08-11T10:22:42.479-07:002011-08-11T10:22:42.479-07:00this post pretty much has me crying.. wow how God ...this post pretty much has me crying.. wow how God leads us even to just the blogs that we need to read.. <br /><br />my heart is healing after growing up in a church like that.. how it was all just having more kids having more kids.. and to think that all we were as women were to grow up and have kids.. that was our role.. to clean floors and cook and clean some more.. to submit submit submit.. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12106534402330241828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-50624537071044518802011-07-04T14:49:08.039-07:002011-07-04T14:49:08.039-07:00Christy, thank you. I appreciate the encouragemen...Christy, thank you. I appreciate the encouragement. Also, check back often and let me know of new experiences and ideas to improve. I love learning from real people rather than fake experts.Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-57629997543362509592011-07-04T10:21:02.687-07:002011-07-04T10:21:02.687-07:00I found your blog over at Lewis's Commandments...I found your blog over at Lewis's Commandments of Men, and this post is all about what I have been struggling so much with lately, except, as a mom. Emotions are something I was never allowed to have growing up, especially anger. So now, 10 years of marriage and 2 kids later, I still don't know how to properly be angry! I struggle with loving my kids, I struggle with accepting them for Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06701767667844656902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-45049395094703539012011-07-03T17:09:41.156-07:002011-07-03T17:09:41.156-07:00Sandra. I can't thank you enough. What an en...Sandra. I can't thank you enough. What an encouragement! Thank you X 1,000,000,000!Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-83622072795461700752011-07-03T13:20:16.079-07:002011-07-03T13:20:16.079-07:00I grew up a preacher's kid and felt the same p...I grew up a preacher's kid and felt the same pressure to be an extension/reflection of my dad. He passed on Gothardism in name, because it struck him as too legalistic, but in principle most of those ideas lived in our house. I hated--hated, didn't care if I was going to hell for it HATED--my dad growing up. I prayed that my mom would wise up and divorce him or that he'd get hit bySandra Keehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16979912092987681396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-72231042247378438362011-06-21T08:11:04.330-07:002011-06-21T08:11:04.330-07:00Glad you stopped by Jill. I agree with you. Than...Glad you stopped by Jill. I agree with you. Thanks for the encouragement.Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-82159274764896294772011-06-20T20:16:24.631-07:002011-06-20T20:16:24.631-07:00Dude.
Imagine feeling that way as a mother?
I am...Dude.<br /><br />Imagine feeling that way as a mother?<br /><br />I am SO glad that you and I, similar background crap in lots of ways, bailed a funky system before our kids got very old.<br /><br />The fact that we can look back and say "that was all b.s., ALL of it, and I am not going to let it define me or my family" is 99.99% of the recovery process. God can change our hearts and Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13232519701455929853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-68710808600386990452011-06-20T20:14:31.344-07:002011-06-20T20:14:31.344-07:00Wow, Deb. Thank you.Wow, Deb. Thank you.Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-60617029317105965892011-06-20T16:29:05.646-07:002011-06-20T16:29:05.646-07:00Hey IC, honest, raw reality is refreshing. I'...Hey IC, honest, raw reality is refreshing. I'm reading a book called Veneer right now and it talks about how their is such beauty in acknowledging and working through our imperfections. Parenting is rough and realizing that our kids need to learn everything from us is such an ongoing task to pursue. May you never give up trying to be a good dad. Acknowledgment is a huge step in the right Deb Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05924884316858785359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-21974389026350024832011-06-20T09:18:55.724-07:002011-06-20T09:18:55.724-07:00Thanks, Mara Reid. Means a whole heck of a lot, c...Thanks, Mara Reid. Means a whole heck of a lot, coming from you.Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-91935526058845734132011-06-20T08:57:45.798-07:002011-06-20T08:57:45.798-07:00You are on the right road.
No once can ask (legit...You are on the right road.<br /><br />No once can ask (legitimately) for any more than that.<br /><br />The right road is the right road, whether you are at the beginning of it, or nearer the end.<br /><br />Happy belated Father's Day. Even if you feel you don't deserve it, it's good for reflection from time to time. Don't you think?<br /><br />I know I benefitted from your Mara Reidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16385458933795539928noreply@blogger.com