tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post6474008952204245503..comments2023-05-07T00:48:54.638-07:00Comments on Incongruous Circumspection: Answer to My Critics: My Childhood Opened My EyesIncongruous Circumspectionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-14384265397487055992015-07-25T08:29:13.413-07:002015-07-25T08:29:13.413-07:00Anonymous, there have been a few references in thi...Anonymous, there have been a few references in this thread about mental illness being a cause but I think that misses the point. Sounds to me like Joe's mom was a mean-hearted Religio-Christian type who used the offered virus of Bill G and his ilk to sicken herself and her whole family. To suggest mental illness lets Christianity of this sort off the hook, doesn't it? One can say, Oh Brianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15475038577503590631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-35938864211239942942015-06-05T08:08:16.083-07:002015-06-05T08:08:16.083-07:00Who are you? You can message me privately at crack...Who are you? You can message me privately at crackedcornjimmy@gmail.comIncongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-61297666435398968202015-06-04T20:35:19.810-07:002015-06-04T20:35:19.810-07:00I felt that the "enforced poverty" was ...I felt that the "enforced poverty" was abuse in itself. How embarrassing to go to public school in shoes that were falling apart and the long skirts and baggy clothes. Your mom would talk in almost a tiny squeak with a... what's the word? some sounds don't come out right? It was obvious to me she ruled with an iron fist. It made me angry. I remember her telling me you Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-5191513990375297552012-12-24T21:23:48.661-08:002012-12-24T21:23:48.661-08:00We have! My dad and I are very close now.We have! My dad and I are very close now.Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-68472110908786352102012-12-23T08:16:15.202-08:002012-12-23T08:16:15.202-08:00I just read this post after reading about your dif...I just read this post after reading about your difficulties loving your children, it makes sense to me now, your own childhood and the associated emotions must have something to do with it that are freezing you up. Also the separation from your own Dad. All though I cant say the exact mechanims by which it all works...<br />I hope you will be able to re-establish a relationship with your dad, if kisaritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18181012456635737873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-45760818882283532312012-07-26T03:48:00.522-07:002012-07-26T03:48:00.522-07:00I also just came across this blog Tammy, but I did...I also just came across this blog Tammy, but I did through "Young Mom". I can attest that his abuse was not that far from normal. Many kids I knew went through it... Mental illness in that environment is worse... Far worse. I have almost identical memories to the type of abuse he mentions... Including that damn how to booklet. Except ours was daily to beat the devil out of us. A hundredSayrendipityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00796660973217278240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-38907075272900023422012-04-05T05:51:03.129-07:002012-04-05T05:51:03.129-07:00I just stumbled across this blog. What you descri...I just stumbled across this blog. What you describe sounds horrific and hypocritical. I am a born-again evangelical Christian - but what you have described is unrecognizable to me. I hope this isn't rude to say but it sounds as though your mother has mental illness. Please know that my heart grieves for you and for the image of "God" that your upbringing gave you. What you Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-10773950133399858562011-06-26T23:48:45.369-07:002011-06-26T23:48:45.369-07:00Hannah. Thanks. I appreciate it, really.Hannah. Thanks. I appreciate it, really.Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-26108472271685636412011-06-26T23:47:56.958-07:002011-06-26T23:47:56.958-07:00Brian. Thanks. What you don't know won't...Brian. Thanks. What you don't know won't hurt you.Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-4990507522029314322011-06-26T23:47:26.075-07:002011-06-26T23:47:26.075-07:00Mara Reid. You are part of my inspiration. Please...Mara Reid. You are part of my inspiration. Please do the same.Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-7782749550429419932011-06-26T23:46:42.070-07:002011-06-26T23:46:42.070-07:00Liberty. [APPLAUD!]Liberty. [APPLAUD!]Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-52257687908783287382011-06-26T23:44:32.762-07:002011-06-26T23:44:32.762-07:00Sharon. Short answer. Not that I know of. The l...Sharon. Short answer. Not that I know of. The longer answer is a bit complicated.<br /><br />My dad knew and fought in the Minnesota court system but it was heavily weighted against father's at the time - even if there was a documented history of reported abuse, which there was. Just like those stories you hear these days, the reported abuse investigations relied heavily on my mother'Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-47013094248460262602011-06-26T23:36:34.646-07:002011-06-26T23:36:34.646-07:00Lewis, you would have made a great patriarch. I c...Lewis, you would have made a great patriarch. I can see you now, sitting in your Michael Pearl designed easy chair with the too high foot rest, just at eye level for the wife to get the idea that a foot massage was in order...blah blah blah.<br /><br />Never mind. Bad joke. Anyway, thanks for the encouragement.Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-37640733507227669232011-06-26T23:26:22.317-07:002011-06-26T23:26:22.317-07:00Jill. Thanks. More coming that will show you bot...Jill. Thanks. More coming that will show you both the shocking parts of my childhood as well as eyebrow-raising happy times. I loved most of my childhood. The abuse was bearable for me, but nothing I would wish on anyone else.<br /><br />My single mother was very adventurous (she took all seven of us behind Minnehaha Falls during the winter when all you had to walk on was solid ice...yes, Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-54865842938839745182011-06-23T13:59:22.988-07:002011-06-23T13:59:22.988-07:00I'm sorry about your childhood. That's aw...I'm sorry about your childhood. That's awful. <br /><br />I guess they can't handle reading the adult's prospective on the viewpoint of living that lifestyle as a child.<br /><br />I pray more people listen to you!Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-51333669205305006042011-06-23T11:33:25.023-07:002011-06-23T11:33:25.023-07:00IC, all I can say is that you're remarkably we...IC, all I can say is that you're remarkably well balanced for having gone through all of that. Keep pressing forward!Brian J. Ackermannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00473833735327472074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-57728295998320123122011-06-23T08:15:18.257-07:002011-06-23T08:15:18.257-07:00Keep writing.
Keep healing.
Keep gaining ground.
...Keep writing.<br />Keep healing.<br />Keep gaining ground.<br /><br />Tenacious souls that survive and thrive inspire me.Mara Reidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16385458933795539928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-31038865574034916682011-06-23T07:35:22.362-07:002011-06-23T07:35:22.362-07:00Oh god it makes me SO annoyed when someone tries t...Oh god it makes me SO annoyed when someone tries to say stories like this are just the "exception" and there isn't really anything wrong wit patriarchy and all that. That's SHIT. I actually have a blog post addressing this very issue written up and ready to go tomorrow. The point I try to make is this: it isn't the PARENTS that are the problem. It's the IDEOLOGY. Period Libby Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10562805251128821984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-73349480402592470422011-06-23T06:29:53.451-07:002011-06-23T06:29:53.451-07:00Ugh. Horrible!!! Makes me all the more determine...Ugh. Horrible!!! Makes me all the more determined to watch out for abuse and report it. Didn't anyone know she was doing that to you? :(<br /><br />Thanks for speaking out!Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08973606092527060970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-35652653839412526062011-06-23T06:10:57.043-07:002011-06-23T06:10:57.043-07:00I hear ya, Joe, and even though I was brushed by t...I hear ya, Joe, and even though I was brushed by this stuff from the outside rather than being on the inside of it, I can relate to the sentiment even if I can only guess at what your experience was like for you.<br /><br />Keep writing amigo.Lewishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05596138376570543467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4359713856816206512.post-58462388112805708502011-06-23T05:27:14.202-07:002011-06-23T05:27:14.202-07:00Dear God. I am so sorry. I've known it, but ...Dear God. I am so sorry. I've known it, but to read it expressed so rawly just breaks my heart.<br /><br />Keep writing and talking.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13232519701455929853noreply@blogger.com