One year ago, I wrote Father's Day, Undeserved. It was a very heartfelt post and I still agree with it completely. I said, in the piece, that I was slowly learning how to love my children for the beautiful individuals they are - and that is still true. By the time they move out at 35, I will have learned everything there is to learn about loving them (sarcasm intended).
I received many warm comments and emails from this post and it has proved to be one of the most popular on Incongruous Circumspection. I also received enough hate mail to realize that there are those out there that expect a parent to be perfect from day one.
Frankly, if a parent realizes they have something to improve and set out to make damn sure they fix that issue, I would trust their parenting much more than the parent that thinks they have all the answers. This doesn't, in any way, excuse me for being the horrible father that I have been and am currently improving upon. Rather, it helps me understand that there are those that will be at the finish line, cheering me for what they see right in front of them, right along with those that will genuinely be praising me for fighting the long and good fight of life with children. I will hug both.
Thank you and please re-read my Father's Day, Undeserved post from 2011.
Love,
I. C.
I received many warm comments and emails from this post and it has proved to be one of the most popular on Incongruous Circumspection. I also received enough hate mail to realize that there are those out there that expect a parent to be perfect from day one.
Frankly, if a parent realizes they have something to improve and set out to make damn sure they fix that issue, I would trust their parenting much more than the parent that thinks they have all the answers. This doesn't, in any way, excuse me for being the horrible father that I have been and am currently improving upon. Rather, it helps me understand that there are those that will be at the finish line, cheering me for what they see right in front of them, right along with those that will genuinely be praising me for fighting the long and good fight of life with children. I will hug both.
Thank you and please re-read my Father's Day, Undeserved post from 2011.
Love,
I. C.
