I'm sure everyone has seen that video of the wife "throwing a tantrum" because she wanted to go to the lake and her husband wanted to rotate his tires. Everyone seems to be concluding that the wife is a total douche.
While I find her reactions fascinating, cringe-worthy, causing me to wince with every other word and wail, I came away with a different reaction.
Throughout my twelve year marriage, I have had some ups and downs. We have, as a couple, as a family, and as single, individual units of humanity. Many things have been said, screamed, wept about, wailed about, cussed about, as well as every other form of communication, in private. Every once in a while, a third party has walked into an incensed discussion between my wife and I, resulting in an uncomfortable moment.
A few years back, I began yelling at the kids about something that they had done. Plenty of words came out of my mouth, including several "fucks". I really let loose this time, throwing a royal adult tantrum, which I do very well. Later, as always happens, I looked back over the incident and was very irritated by my reaction, remorseful about what I had done, and embarrassed by how I let myself get so worked up over something so silly.
It was made so much easier by the fact that Kristine had secretly videotaped the whole episode. In a calmer moment, she played it back to me. It was horrible. Sure, we laughed about it, I apologized for everything, and then we summarily deleted the evidence (I think... Maybe she's saving it for blackmail later).
But that's the thing. This was a private incident. Anyone who has been married or been in a relationship with another human being understands that things are done and said that would never see the light of day. Kristine and I do and say things to each other that we would never do or say to our friends. We can do it because we love each other unconditionally, and know that not everything that happens has meaning. While others would look in on our marriage and think, at those moments, that we are two horrible people, they have no idea about the twelve years of "knowing each other" that allows us to be relaxed and open with our feelings and actions with one another.
Thus, I conclude that this husband, the one who uploaded his wife's "tantrum" to YouTube, was a total dick. He should never have released this to the public. No matter what his wife's actions, I pity her with every bone in my body.
May her husband live to regret his actions, learn from them, and take action to heal this horrid breach to their relationship.
While I find her reactions fascinating, cringe-worthy, causing me to wince with every other word and wail, I came away with a different reaction.
Throughout my twelve year marriage, I have had some ups and downs. We have, as a couple, as a family, and as single, individual units of humanity. Many things have been said, screamed, wept about, wailed about, cussed about, as well as every other form of communication, in private. Every once in a while, a third party has walked into an incensed discussion between my wife and I, resulting in an uncomfortable moment.
A few years back, I began yelling at the kids about something that they had done. Plenty of words came out of my mouth, including several "fucks". I really let loose this time, throwing a royal adult tantrum, which I do very well. Later, as always happens, I looked back over the incident and was very irritated by my reaction, remorseful about what I had done, and embarrassed by how I let myself get so worked up over something so silly.
It was made so much easier by the fact that Kristine had secretly videotaped the whole episode. In a calmer moment, she played it back to me. It was horrible. Sure, we laughed about it, I apologized for everything, and then we summarily deleted the evidence (I think... Maybe she's saving it for blackmail later).
But that's the thing. This was a private incident. Anyone who has been married or been in a relationship with another human being understands that things are done and said that would never see the light of day. Kristine and I do and say things to each other that we would never do or say to our friends. We can do it because we love each other unconditionally, and know that not everything that happens has meaning. While others would look in on our marriage and think, at those moments, that we are two horrible people, they have no idea about the twelve years of "knowing each other" that allows us to be relaxed and open with our feelings and actions with one another.
Thus, I conclude that this husband, the one who uploaded his wife's "tantrum" to YouTube, was a total dick. He should never have released this to the public. No matter what his wife's actions, I pity her with every bone in my body.
May her husband live to regret his actions, learn from them, and take action to heal this horrid breach to their relationship.
